Category Archives: Metaphysical

A Society of Broken Healers

There’s a saying that those who can’t, teach.

This theory works especially well, ironically, in healing. Many of us have been hurt badly in so many ways. By our parents. Our partners. Our friends. Ourselves. Those whom we entrusted with everything.

I was unhappily married for 12 years before I realized I was experiencing abuse. I was told a happy wife would make a happy life but no one explained what would happen if I could never make her happy.

It got to the point that I couldn’t make a single decision regarding the simplest house chore without asking my partner’s permission. I was controlled, I was isolated. I was manipulated. I was made to feel guilty for doing anything on my own, even just visiting family. I took regular trips to the emergency room sure I was dying only to find I was having a panic attack.

When I finally ended it–because I realized I would have to be the one to end it–I was made to believe it was my fault. That I was a terrible person. I was told I had let everyone down, broken promises I had made. Caused distress to my partner through my actions. She struck back at me in every way she could, from fights over property to monetary support. For a time, I believed the lies.

But the week I did it, the panic attacks disappeared. Over the next several months, my soul learned to sing, if that makes sense. I even learned to love again.

But to this day, I cannot trust another person.

We are a Society of Broken Healers. We’ve experienced things we still have trouble articulating to others. Things that make our heart race when we see someone, or read something, or even smell something that triggers very old wounds.

We’ve been left…broken. Worse, our feelings and imperfect memories cause us to believe that what happened to us was somehow our fault and our inability to heal influences everyone else we interact with. The choices we make then lead us to greater pain as we find ourselves in a downward cycle of despair.

But there’s a way out of it.

When in pain, some of us have learned to stop focusing on ourselves, and share love with someone else who is hurting. Friend, stranger, it doesn’t matter. The more we listen, the more intuitive we become, and the more we see that everyone is going through something we cannot possibly understand right now.

There are so many ways to do this. We can all become better at listening simply by ceasing to talk, and more importantly, by slowing down our consumption of so much distracting media. Maybe we’re good speaking. Maybe we’re good at writing. The point is that we can save ourselves from our destructive criticisms through empathy and turn our darkness inside out, thereby exposing it to light. By making ourselves vulnerable, which is to say, we face our fears eye-to-eye.

Practically speaking, we know there are people all around us who are going through something like we have. Knowing this, why would we spend a minute more wallowing alone in our own misery rather than reaching out a hand to help someone who is falling into it now?

It won’t hurt. Why? Because we set no expectations. We expect nothing in return. Not reciprocity, not love, not kindness. Not even a “thank you.” In truth, the people we help, may not even realize how we helped. Its not important. Only recognizing the pain, the fear, the anger in someone else and enabling them to see it for what it is–a surmountable thing–is important. Only helping them translate their emotions into something powerful and creative matters. Then, seeing how we coped, they too may find another to reach out to, to stop focusing on their own pain and help someone else through theirs. A Ponzi Scheme of Pain. The tragic irony is that unlike dollars, there’s no shortage of pain. The euphoric beauty of it is that there is no shortage of healing either. So the scheme never ends. But our pain can.

The more of us who hurt, the more we can heal. How so? Because the act of healing another in turn naturally helps us to heal ourselves. By turning our attention away from ourselves, the energy of our actions turns from negative low energy to positive high-frequency vibrations. By finding the beauty in others so that they may better appreciate why they’re here in this lifetime, so we better learn ourselves about why we’re here.

We who cannot heal ourselves, heal others. And in the process, we too discover healing. We have realized after hurting for so long, that its not really about us anymore. It never was. We begin to understand that we’ve taken personally what the universe has wrought and we only begin to understand that the universe just is. We’ve seen that by holding on to our own pain for so long we have missed the bigger picture of why we are here. And how we can influence the universe rather than alway let it influence us.

So rather than lash out, or send our negativity to another person who does not need it, rather than stop trusting in anything anymore, we’ve come to a simple conclusion: We teach. We teach others how to cope by showing them how we did it. How we survived.

It is enough sometimes to know we’re not alone. Especially now, in the midst of terribly interesting times.

Ultimately, we do it for our own reasons, healing being most important. I do it for my little boy because I don’t want him to ever feel what I feel. Especially when it comes to father figures, but that’s another story. I am the breakwater that protects his fragile harbor. Sure, he’ll experience his own pains. I know I cannot protect him forever from the universe. He has his own life to live.

But I can show him how we heal.

We are a Society of Broken Healers, and we heal in the act of healing others.

We lift each other up.

Calling All Dark Lights

What’s a Dark Light?

Someone who has seen the darkness. Someone who has experienced incalculable loss. Someone who has felt indescribable pain. And passed through the terrible veil without losing their light. A light they now share with others to help them grow, to persevere and someday again to thrive. They’re healers, empaths, writers, artists. They are us.

Where Did It Come From?

Inspired by The Left Hand of Light, originally published in early 2013, whose lead character Michael is a Dark Light pursued by forces of Shadow while an empath under his protection discovers her own talents as a healer, Dark Lights are called to help others despite the darkness that surrounds their own lives.

A Community of Dark Lights, a Society of Broken Healers

Now more than ever, the world needs its Dark Lights. Suffering, oppression, pain are all taking their toll on our fellow human beings. Many are confused and want guidance. Others are in pain and seek solace. Some are lonely and cannot find their voice.

What Next?

If you’re a Dark Light, let’s connect. Let’s read together, write together and help together. We can be the faint light in the darkness that gives hope to that one person who needs it most right now.

More to follow…

Inspiration is supernatural

What if inspiration comes from ghosts whispering in our ears?

The importance of grounding

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For you energy workers out there (and of course, you electricians), the concept of grounding should be familiar. Grounding is an important step in preparing for energy work and doing any kind of healing work, in fact. Grounding centers us and allows us to remain in “neutral” which in turn allows our intuitions the undistracted latitude they need to perform the energy, healing or spell casting task at hand.

Regardless of our belief systems, or our confidence in ourselves, we are first and foremost, children of the Earth. Staying in tune with Her help us to resonate with the energy we need to help others get into tune as well.

Stacy Vajta wrote the first in a series on Lightworkers World about this important concept and promises more to come. Have a look.

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Safe Spaces

You asked me once if I was ready to hear your story, love. I am. Are you ready to tell it?SafePlace


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Warning to Healers and Sensitives

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I had an awakening encounter this weekend when I met a man who claimed to be a healer. He ran a booth selling crystals at a local street fair. In fact, he called himself a “healer of healers.” To be certain, he was very sensitive and even wise. He could pick out healers from a crowd and he was drawn to them like a moth to a candle. He spoke with wisdom about his observations on the universe and energy. He talked about how he could use crystals to move energy better than others and how he demonstrated his metaphysical mastery by playing a trick on a reiki teacher by multiplying the energy in a crystal until the teacher could no longer hold it. He talked about working with a client who used crystals to lend herself power and how he could cut that power off from her with a thought. Looking back, I later realized that never ONCE did he actually talk about healing anyone. This man was no healer. What he was, was an energy manipulator. Its true that healers can manipulate energy. But they use that gift for divine purpose, for healing. That’s what healers do. They can’t help it. Some healers are downright selfless in their desire to help others. This man manipulated energy for his own benefit, even at the expense of other human beings, even if it caused them pain. His aura was dark gray muddied with pink but the crystals in the shop made it difficult to see with any clarity.

As he spoke he upset me. Later on, he angered me. During our interaction he had tried to hurt me and more importantly, those who are important to me. I am no fool, but I am rocked that such selfish people of the darkness could walk so openly in the daylight. I realized I am terribly naive…optimistic about humankind.

This is a warning to healers, sensitives and intuitives, especially those who are still learning to cope with, or are unsure of their abilities, and to those that manifest the Goddess within themselves: Your energy will draw people of the light and those of the dark to you. You must learn to recognize which is which. You must learn to walk the path–light or dark–that surrounds you with the kind of people you want to be around. Though your mind is open and accepting, you must learn patience and yes, even suspicion when your intuition is ringing deep inside your mind or heart that something is wrong. It is easy to get caught up when you find someone who understands your gift and speaks to you on a level that you actually understand. That does not make them a friend or someone worthy of your trust. If you think that something is not what it seems, it is probably not no matter how good or wise the talker may seem, no matter what tricks they can show you with crystals. Or totems. Or anything for that matter. Watch their actions as well as their words. And trust, trust, trust your instincts over your ego or your doubt. Know yourself before seeking teachers of your own. I know you want to learn, to grow, to reach your full potential as a human being. That’s why you were put on this path. Just know that there are others who are not interested in seeing you successful. They just want to take a piece of that energy for themselves. And those users don’t always look like a bad sort. Healers may even instinctively reach out to try to “fix” these people. Unless you are VERY experienced at this, do not attempt it. Merely recognize the darkness for what it is and move on.
My enlightenment is still upon me. I am slowly discovering what my role is in the grand scheme of the universe and plan to consult a reader to find out more. There are healers. There are spell casters. There are energy manipulators and users. Perhaps there are protectors who use their own energy to fight for those whose light is threatened. And maybe that’s what I am.

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On the Incarnates of Aphrodite


Goddess (Photo credit: junibears)

A good and enigmatic friend of mine pointed me to a blog post by the SeventhSisteroftheStars entitled “Incarnates of Aphrodite: A new ancient breed of Goddess.”

This is a post worth reading.

I feel the incarnate is no new evolution. She has always been with us, to heal us when we needed healing. To love us when we needed loving. She is a capacitor of love with boundless ability to store love’s energy. She is a being of the universe, and beyond it. She is of the elements, earth, air, water and fire. Like nature, she is constantly changing, and yet she is changeless.

Rather, it is we who are evolving. We who are re-tuning our senses as we begin to focus once again on the spiritual; the natural, the unnatural and the supernatural. When we sit for a moment in silence and listen while the universe moves, suddenly we see her and realize she was there all along.

Once discovered, do not be alarmed by the passionate and creative creature you find. She is worthy of worship, but do not attempt to worship her. She is too well grounded to accept so lofty a position. Do not attempt to contain her, she will not be confined. May as well try to catch a hummingbird in your hand.

Instead, if you wish to know an incarnate in your life, be true in how you love and are loved. Recognize the darkness and the light in your heart and embrace both. Incarnates are healers drawn to positive energy. Take in her energy if she offers it to you (never demand it!), make something positive of the gift, and return it to her. She will respond.

Most importantly, do not be afraid to be changed by her. One cannot be touched by an incarnate of the Goddess on Earth and expect to ever be the same afterwards. Breathe in the Now, and so be transformed. And consider yourself blessed.

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